There comes a time when it is better to leave our ghosts in the closet.  Everyone of us has a few tales to tell regarding our “ghosts”.  But when is it time to tell and when is it time not to tell?  There are people in our lives that we trust with our utmost secrets, but do they really want to hear the real dirt in our lives? 

It is a painful realization when you are feeling low, deciding to call up a really close friend to chat for a bit, getting the poison out of your system with a good ear to cry on and they flat-out tell you they do not want to hear it.  That stings.  At first, we get defensive and our feelings are hurt, but after we sit back and think about it, can we really blame them? 

There is a time to talk and a time to listen.  Our closest friends know us best and know that we can do better.  They don’t shut us out because they truly don’t care, they shut us out to wake us up.  We all fall into self-pity some time in our lives, but there comes a time when enough is enough.  If we don’t like the paths that we are heading down, then it is time to change that path.

Have a good cry, get up, brush your self off, and go the other way.  This is harder to do than said, but we are stronger than we think we are and sometimes all it  takes is a good friend to wake us up by telling us to shut up.  Open the door and walk through it, but don’t forget to close the closet door behind you, leaving the ghosts inside.

Written By:  Ask Ms Mandi